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We last looked at the setting and breathing deeply to help us get to a relaxed place, appreciating  the environment…sounds, smells, sensations.

The next step is more difficult for most of us. Many of us take comfort and feel secure when we are lying down. So, time to love and appreciate one of the most important, perhaps the most important  tool for great sex. The brain! I also say my soul. If I don’t like/love me, who else will. So, I learned to face the reality of my body and to embrace it…curves, dimples, and all.

Take great care of your skin. Soft and supple are really important.

Take a long look at yourself-front and back-in a full-length mirror. If you don’t like what you see, promise yourself a plan to change it. If your good, happy, ok with what you see, embrace yourself and

Last know yourself-your textures, your bumps and bruises, scars…

When you and your partner are ready, do the same together and share feelings and stories about the bumps, bruises, and scars.

No touching yet, just feasting on looking at one another. When was the last time you really looked at one another…eyes, noses…toes  🙂

Enjoy the journey.


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I think what I love most about the Tantric philosophy is the celebration of the body. We do ourselves in by our own issues about body…size, shape, etc. Tantric celebrates it for what and how it is…

I always say if I don’t love me, how can I teach someone else how to love me?

A fun way to begin is to go to the space I talked about previously…a place you decorate with sensual fabrics, candles, and soft lighting. If you happen to live near a private beach or a wooded area and temperatures permit…that’s great too.

Undress separately, and then come together in the special place. Lie close together, not touching, and take deep cleansing breaths, paying attention to feelings, sounds, and smells around you. You’ll be surprised at all you’ll become aware of when you’re just focusing on deep breathing. It’s really relaxing and a great stress reducer.

What do YOU become aware of as you feel your body relaxing?

More later. Relax. Enjoy breathing deeply…and being naked!

Hi Friends! I’ve been posting on my Pure Pleasure Erotica FB page.

Take a look and let me know what you think. Same logo so you will recognize me.

Here’s another Interlude from the audiobook. Take a few to listen and let me know what you think.

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Imagine –

Dr. Monica