In one of my interludes, I write about adorning the body with sweet sticky things. In a tantric situation, fragrances add to the ambience. I don’t mean perfumes; it could be from flowers, fruits, or oils/candles. Sometimes folks use dusting powder like a light fragranced talc.
The idea is to please all of your senses…particularly the eyes. Here’s a tip from the ages: “He who realizes the truth of the body can then come to know the truth of the universe.” Rainsara
Like Tantric we’re going to take this slowly…more coming. Promise
Tantric sex isn’t for the quickies or the bip bam thank you ma’am situations. When you have time and patience, it might be a good time to try something different. Pillows, soft silky fabrics, candles, scented oils…instrumental music (no lyrics to get in the way)…and patience. When was the last time you two sat close together facing one another and just looked at one another?
Think about the setting and the “things” mentioned above. Talk about that and the idea of time close together and just looking at one another…slowly drinking in every inch of your partner. Let me know how that goes.
The beauty of this philosophy is the focus on intimacy. The more you learn about your partner, the sensitive spots, the contours, the likes and dislikes,the hidden spots neither of you knew were responsive to touch, pressure, wetness, temperature change,and more, the better able you are to bring wonderful pleasure.
Tantric thinking and discipline foster a journey of discovery, not the pressure building and releasing of the sex act itself. The sensuality and intimacy in time heighten the potential for the sustained dance leading to an orgasmic release that can be indescribable with mere words.
To begin try sitting close facing one another but not touching. Think about and then verbalize to one another all that you see…even the little things.
Then gently rub noses. Nothing more till next time.
“Tantric Sex is meditative, spontaneous, and intimate lovemaking. Through it you learn to prolong the act of love making and to channel, rather than dissipate, potent orgasmic energies moving through you, thereby raising the level of your consciousness” N. Lacroix (1997) The Art of Tantric Sex
In the coming weeks I will post more about this topic and hope you will engage in conversation with me about this. In my next book, I will be sure to make use of these techniques.