Building Blocks for an Intimate Relationship

I just finished a wonderful book by Elizabeth Berg, Say When; it was amazing. The book crystallizes an intimate look at the reasons a relationship can go awry. Like a silent killer, a stealth bomb, the every day ignoring/missing of the signs and symptoms can destroy the relationship bond. My heart ached from the reality of how close so many of us come to such a place-unaware and devastated when the truth is forced upon us.

It doesn’t have to be. If you don’t know something is displeasing to someone how can you be expected to do something about it? Some are more intuitive than others and that may help, but only if it becomes part of a communication stream and the information, response, reaction, feeling…is shared.

Intimacy and good communication are fundamental building blocks for any good relationship. There are varying degrees of each in any partnership, this is true. However, in a mature, adult, monogamous  situation, the bonds of intimacy and communication are seldom truly replicated in another relationship. The uniqueness of this type of partnership is the trust embodied via the honest and mutual communication leading to an exquisite mixture of the physical and ultimately the spiritual.

Love, intimacy, and good communication are like a garden, they need tending…watering, pruning, feeding, tilling…nurturing. In our busy complex lives it’s important to remember to till the soil. The rewards will be great.


2 thoughts on “Building Blocks for an Intimate Relationship

  1. I agree 100% with everything that you are saying, communication is key. Although, I think another thing that feeds the desire and attraction for one another is the fact that they both have their own lives OUTSIDE of the relationship. Each person should have a purpose in life and feel complete on their own, then comes together to meet with another.

    A lot of the time, people get into relationships to fill a void which is where things go bad. No other person can fill that void other than yourself and it creates tension in the relationship when you put pressure on them to fill it. Two people coming together can’t be codependent, they need to be individuals who then seek support in another or intimacy, like you have said.

    Great post, seriously! We should connect, come check me out! Just search “Toronto Life Coach” on Google, I am studying under Master Life Coach Bruno LoGreco. Keep up the inspiring work!


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